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[framlingem]

Babysitting, and the kids are (finally) asleep. Not sure how I feel about their mom not letting them know she's going out with a new boyfriend after classes (cus I sure as heck ain't going to be the one to tell them, especially when they miss their dad so much)- I wish she'd at least tell me what to tell them when they ask why Mommy's late home.

Tonight's word was 'butt'. Because dude, that is the most HI-larious word in existence.

Hehehe. Butt.

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[your-lifeis-now.livejournal.com]

Butt... is an AWESOME word. The only better word is any body part subequently paired with the word "ball" and then coupled with the word "head." This forms a-Mazing worlds like eyeballhead. (To this day one of Clarity's all time favorite insults is "WhatEVUH Eyeballunderwearhead...) For some reason words, that I as a mother, just sort of tilt my head at, like oh... noseball, earballhead, and so forth are also equally as entertaining.

You know as a parent, its really tough to know how much to tell your kids about the stupid shit that you, as an adult are doing. On the one hand, I think my children are people. (Sad that I have to state this, neh?) As human beings worthy of respect, I think they deserve explanations of the things going on in their lives. At the same time, I think that at times, parents burden their children with information they have no need for and truly don't have the emotional maturity to process. To be honest, I think if it were me, I would probably introduce the topic of Mom and Dad dating other people. However, I wouldn't tell them about anyone specific and I sure as hell would not introduce that person to them until I was damn sure he was going to be around for a good long while.

In terms of what to tell them when she's late, I think you have a couple of options. The first is to put the ball SQUARELY back in her court- where it belongs. She needs to at least be telling them something. So "You know I thought you might wonder that, but I'm your sitter not Mom's so I think you'll probably want to ask your mom that when she gets home." or "Even though you guys are the COOLEST people on the planet, I think sometimes adults need time to hang out with other adults for a while, I'm not sure when she'll be back, but she'll be here in the morning. Just like always." I think reminding them of whatever things in their lives that aren't changing is a good plan during transitional times like this one.

Lastly, Em.... I really have a lot of respect for you and the awareness that you bring to caring for these girls. You really have excellent instincts with them. Being able to be giving to them when you are going through a tough time yourself really says a lot about you.

*hugs*

[framlingem.livejournal.com]

A&A's favourite words in the world are 'butt', 'penis' (they seem to be trying to play 'shock the babysitter', which isn't working as I'm unshockable. If they said 'cock' or 'dick' or whatever, I'd be put out, but 'penis'? Nah.)

What I told them in response to 'why is Mommy late?' is that Mommy had to talk with a friend after class, and to ask Mommy if they wanted specifics. That way I wasn't lying to them.

It's nearly as hard as when a six-year-old askes where babies come from. I tell them that I haven't had any, so I'm not an expert - ask your mom/dad. :p